5 reasons to give Guided Communication a go


On the one hand, communicating when online dating is easier than the real world; after all, there are no awkward pauses, or foot-in-mouth situations. On the other hand, when you’re trying to communicate with a match, and that blank screen is staring back at you it can suddenly seem impossible to know where to start.

That’s just one of the reasons why we give you different ways to communicate with your matches. Everyone is different, and everyone has their own preferred way to get to know someone. You can send a Smile to let a match know you’re interested, send an Icebreaker to get the conversation going or jump straight into eHarmony Mail and get chatting.

There is one more option though; our unique Guided Communication process, which can help you get to know a match in a whole new way.  The idea of a four step process in order to get to know someone might seem a bit laborious, but give us a chance and we might just change your mind. Here are our five reasons why Guided Communication can be an amazing tool to help you get to know your matches.

1.    Ease into conversation slowly
That feeling we were talking about before, where you look at a blank screen and suddenly have no clue what to say to a match, doesn’t exist with Guided Communication. You can start the conversation with a few interesting questions in a way that you’d never be able to do in a bar or with an email. Choose your answers from a list, or create your own and see where the conversation leads.

2.    Delve deeper, quicker
Your matches’ profiles and photos will have given you some useful information – and helped you make the initial decision whether or not to get in touch – but Guided Communication helps you get under the skin of your match, with limited effort. You don’t need to a week’s worth of emails to discover that Mike from Lincoln really isn’t the kind of person that piques your interest.

3.    Compare and contrast your matches
We’re not very keen on talking about dating as if it’s some kind of ratings and numbers  game, but when you look at the nuts and bolts that’s what it is; deciding whether Sally from Ealing is worth your time when compared with Rebecca from Brixton (of course they both might be, at this stage!).

Guided Communication enables you to work out which matches have true potential as soon as possible. As, let’s be honest, there’s only 24 hours in the day, and you don’t want to spend all of them online. And to make this process even simpler you can ask your matches the same questions, to compare and contrast their answers and immediately see whose responses you like – and who’s going to get a polite ‘thanks, but no thanks!’.

4.    Ask the questions that matter to you
How do you start chatting to someone online? ‘Hey how’s things?’ Or maybe, ‘Nice to meet you, I see we both love listening to Swedish 80s pop and eating rice crackers!’ However you start, you probably don’t usually start with deep, probing questions and thoughts, but things would often be so much simpler if we all did this. After all, it’s not that you both love listening to A-Ha that’s going to ensure you have a deep, meaningful relationship. It’s the important things like whether or not laziness is a deal breaker, or whether or not you both want children at some point.

5.    Tailor Guided Communication to you
Guided Communication is flexible. You can send the same questions to every match so you can compare and contrast their answers. Alternatively, you can choose different questions for each match based on what you want to know about them specifically. Skip to eHarmony Mail whenever you want (though remember you can’t go back) and close communication whenever you want (though please be polite about it and if you can, let them know why you’ve closed them).

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